Geekmom goes on a Facebook Rant

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Okay, so this is a ranting type of post.  It will most likely be my least read post. This has absolutely nothing to do with gaming, but more with being a mom.  And since I am Geekmom, it works.  At least for me.  The rest of you may want to back up a bit.  No, back up a little more…. little more….Okay, you may be safe.  No promises.

Some of you know that Pink’s younger sister is Autistic.   Geoff and his Gamer Girl, mostly of our guildies, and everyone who went out to dinner with us from DDO last year before Pax East know.

She is 11 years old.  Smart as a whip.  Cute as a button.  Devious as the Devil.  And Autistic.  Not the quirky kind either.  While she is verbal, her behaviors put her on the more severe side.

She now is just getting to understand that she is Autistic and will be for the rest of her life.  She has even wanted to not be Autistic.  And this kills me.

I have belonged to a group of women who are parents to children on the spectrum.  From all across the spectrum.  We started together on BabyCenter.  We moved to a private board when BabyCenter changed its format about 7 yrs old.  Now, we are in a private group on Facebook.  It was there that we had the following conversation:

Mom1:

Did any of you know that the breast cancer awareness “games”, the ones where you pick a random comment and post it to your wall, are now Autism Awareness “games”?

I honestly dont like them at all! Never have. I am all for awareness but why make stupid posts about it? I am sure I am the only one that feels this way. Which is fine. I was just caught off guard that they are now for Autism Awareness

As you can imagine, NOT ONE of us thought that this was a good idea, especially since this was one of the options:

Mom1: A friend posted that mayo on Reese’s peanut butter cups was good. I made the mistake and commented that is sounded gross to me. Next thing I got was a PM for participating in this game and how it was for autism awareness

PM: You shouldn’t have liked or commented on my last status hahaha. Now you have to pick from one of the below and post it as your status. This is the 2017 Autism Awareness game. Don’t be a spoil sport. Pick your poison from one of these and post it as your status.

1. Just found a squirrel in my car!

2. Just used my kids to get out of a speeding ticket.

3. How do you get rid of foot fungus?

4. All of my bras are missing!

5. I think I just accepted a marriage proposal online?!

6. I’ve decided to stop wearing underwear.

7. It’s confirmed I’m going to be a mommy/daddy.

8. Just won a chance audition on America’s got talent!

9. I’ve been accepted on master chef.

10. I’m getting a pet monkey!

11. I just peed myself!

12. Really thinking about getting butt implants!

13. Just won 700 on a scratcher!

14. We’re moving to Vermont at the end of the year!

15. Mayonnaise on Reese’s peanut butter cups is sooo good!

16. I’ve just been accepted on come dine with me whoop whoop.

Post with no explanations. Sorry, I fell for it too. Looking forward to your post. Ahhh don’t ruin it. (Don’t let the secret out). And remember it’s all for the 2017 Autism Awareness. Have fun!

Besides the inappropriateness of inviting a mother of a child with Autism to participate in such a game when this is her daily freaking life, the idea of relegating Autism Awareness to eating something gross is insulting.  Look at these options!  HOW DOES THIS RAISE AUTISM AWARENESS???

At this point, the only people who are not aware of Autism are those living under a rock or in a jungle.  Autistic people do not need awareness.  They need acceptance.  To be as they are.  Without forcing them into a round hole that they cannot fit into.

So, needless to say, I was rather fit to be tied and decided to head off anything thinking that I would be interested in this.

Prepare to get your knickers in a twist.

My Facebook post:

There is a “Autism Awareness game” going around on Facebook where you post a rather foolish statement and then send whoever posts on it a PM saying that they have to do the same. Many of you know that I have an autistic daughter. You may be tempted to include me in this. PLEASE DO NOT.
This is NOT Autism Awareness. Those on the spectrum are not a game to be played on Facebook. They are real people. With feelings. If you want to raise Autism Awareness, DO SOMETHING REAL.
Help me figure out how to not let the school system that she is in screw her over for her education. Help me educate society about her. Tell people to mind their own f’ing business when she has a meltdown in public. Help me keep her safe in society and from society. Help me know what is going to happen when she is no longer young and cute and has a meltdown that requires police. Help me when I have to call said police to have her taken to the hospital for evaluation. Help me figure out how to protect her from sexual predators. Help me figure out what she can do after high school ends.  Help me figure out what happens when I die and there is no one to take care of her, becuase this is my number one fear.
Stop playing stupid games and do something.

Feel free to share THIS!

Seriously folks, how do games like this raise any awareness of any of the conditions that it is used to “educate”?  I have seen this game for Breast Cancer, MS, and a host of other conditions.  How is this raising awareness?  Is the only way that you can think about a disease, a cancer, a neurological difference etc is to PLAY GAMES?

Read.  Ask questions. Educate yourself if you want answers.  Volunteer if you want to raise awareness.

If you want to play a Facebook game, go play Candy Crush.  As for me, I will be over on DDO and ESO with my friends and family, killing monsters while pretending them to be my daughter’s disability.

Rant over.  You can come out of hiding now.

Ahem…..it is me.

Dusting off the mic.  Wiping away the cobwebs.  Trying to find where I put everything.

I have not posted a blog post since May of 2016.  As soon as we got back from Disney, I started my Christmas crafting projects.  Christmas Crafting may not sound like much, but I had two double-knit scarves to knit.

Double knitting is a knitting technique that allows you to produce a double layer of Stockinette stitch fabric with mirror-image colorwork while knitting both layers at the same time.

Here is an example of Pink’s Star Wars Double-knit scarf. The hyperlink with bring you to my Ravelry project page which has more pictures.

As you can see, one side is Black for the Dark Side and the other is a self-striping rainbow yarn for the Light Side.  It is almost 6ft long.

My husband also got a double knit scarf.  The difficult with his is that I used lace weight yarn(really thin) on size 0 needles(really tiny).   There were 10 charts.  Each chart had 8 rows. Each row is 100 stitches.  That is 80,000 stitches.

Here is his The Name of the Doctor. The hyperlink with bring you to my Ravelry project page which has more pictures.

Then there were the 4 pairs of gloves/mittens, one lace shawl with beads, two baby sweaters, two Denver Broncos Halfling Commandos, one toddler quilt and one full-size quilt for Tessa.

Oh, then there is work.  My company decided to sell us to a vendor company like we were chattel.  After working for this unnamed insurance company since 1999.  Very uncool.  Plus I have had three different supervisors in the meantime.  Three different people to bring into dealing with me.

Our DDO gaming dropped a bit as well.  Listening to people complain in my ear for 8+ hours a day made putting on my headphones and trying to keep people alive seem like torture.  Clericing had gotten VERY stale.  I was getting to the point of wanting to let people die just for the fun of it.  Woah…..backaway!!!  So we aimed to play Gnome Gnight, Halfling Commando night, and Halfling Commando raid night.  Gnome Gnight is hard as I work a 9 hour day until 7:00pm.  Getting on for 8:00pm can be torture depending on my days.  So, some nights we do not play.

Someone, who may or may not have a blog and may or may not have a Gamer Girl, mentioned another game to relieve some of my stress playing cleric.  We met those folks, who shall remain nameless to protect their identities, over on Elder Scrolls Online.

ESO is a lot easier for me to play by myself.  I love DDO and have no intention of leaving, but I get lost very easily inside quests.  Plus, I do not solo well in DDO with the healing-based clerics that I build to help the guild and Pink.  I love being able to just run through destroying things in ESO.  It gives me a better outlook so that I can come back and play cleric on DDO.

I let it slip to Pink on New Year’s Eve that I had let my blogging fall behind this year.  She was most displeased.  I told her that I would start up again.  And my husband already reminded me twice.  It does not help that I am like a squirrel with ADD on coffee.

So here we go again…..starting off in the New Year.  Still Geekmom.  Still will blog about Geeky things, family, crafting, and gaming.  May add in some ESO for the fun of it.  I have two geeky knitting project planned that I hope to enter into competition.  So it shall be a fun year.

Hope all is well with you!

 

 

 

 

The Hobbit as a teaching tool

My husband and DDO partner-in-crime is away on business this week.  As a result, Pink and I have not felt like playing.  Mostly, because we want to wait until he comes home to experience Update 31 and the three new quests together.

Instead, Pink and I have been watching the extended version of The Hobbit-An unexpected journey.  We have been watching about 30-45 minutes a night before her bedtime.  Just the two of us, sitting on the couch with popcorn and a movie.

There are many quotes that I loved from the books and movies, but this is one of those teaching moments.

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Pink, my rainbow baby, be that ordinary folk that helps keep the darkness at bay.  Remember each day to perform some act of kindness and love.  Be the person who brings courage to others.  Love, Mommy.

Pink’s First Shroud

We completed Pink’s first Shroud Wednesday night.  It was a total blast.  It almost did not happen.  Pink came home from after-school care with a splitting headache. I gave her some Motrin and sent her up to her room.  She slept through dinner.  But she perked up at 8PM EST.

We had a total of 11 people with the help of Tholgrin, Evennote and BonnieBew.  They were awesome, even though raids are run differently server to server.

I kept updating Twitter as we went through each part of the Shroud.  Lag kept trying to be that missing 12th player, but was still doable.  Mostly as we finished each section.  Loot table loading 😀

Pink leveled as soon as we entered the Shroud.

The Portals seemed to be the hardest part of the quest.  Geoff Hanna was having sword insecurities as he tried to find a good portal beater.  It took so long that it seemed that we were healing the portals.

Part Two went swimmingly well. The named critters went down one try!

Part Three with puzzles went great too. Only one death when someone who shall not be named, Geoff Hanna, tried to outrun the blades.

Part 4, the blades insisted on chasing me before Harry dropped down. Seriously, watch the video. The game tried to take out the cleric. Harry went down in two rounds with no one taking a trip to the penalty box.

Everyone shrined and then we all died as intended. There was no tricking the Shroud virgins this time around .

Only one death in part 5. Otherwise, it was a blast. BonnieBew had a present for Pink. A mini Harry pit fiend companion!!!! Pink was over the moon.

BonnieBew was also awesome enough to record the event and post it to her YouTube channel. I was thinking of streaming live in Twitch, but with three people running a raid from the same house during lag would be too much.

Thanks to everyone who worked to make Pink’s first Shroud something memorable. We truly have a great community of players. That is something we should all be proud of and focus on it.
Pink’s First Shroud courtesy of BonnieBew

 

 

 

Planning #OperationPinkShroud

We have been in plans for the last month for what we are calling #OperationPinkShroud.  Pink is level 18.  Close to 19.

Tonight is the night!  Tonight.  Pink is so excited.  She was vibrating when I dropped her off at school.

The biggest logistic issue that we had is that Halfling Commandos and Torchwood are small guilds.  Torchwood is where the non-halflings go.  So it is the same number of people 😀  Luckily, Twitter came to the rescue!!!  Tholgrin, Evennote and BonnieBew are all coming to give her a hand.  Hopefully LAG does not try to be the 13th player tonight.

I had hoped to stream the event live through Twitch, but I am worried about it introducing lag.  I really want this to go smoothly for her.  We most likely will be making Pink “Raid Princess”.  She will get all the items and shards that she needs to build a weapon!

Wish us luck!

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On a lighter subject….

There is a vulgar three-letter word right now in DDO.  It was bandied about prior to the server move, but has become quite commonly yelled in party chat, general chat, DDO forums and blog posts.  However, in light of this, I am not writing about it.

I am writing about DRESSES.  Particularly the dresses that I am making Pink and I for PAX EAST 2016!!!!

I am giving enough warning for those who may be less than impressed with fabric choices a chance to move on from my blog post today.  But for those interested, READ ON!

Pax East tickets went on sale while Pink was in the hospital.  It was a week after her emergency surgery and were bought as a bribe to make her smile.  Coincidentally, it was last day of her running post-operative infection fevers.

She was the envy of her older cousins at Christmas when she announced that I was taking her to Pax East.  Her cousins are 30, 28 and 24 so she felt quite special that they were jealous.  But she was still recovering, so no flushies were threatened.

Have I left enough room for those not interested in fashion to back out?  Oh well, if not, consider yourself warned.

Pink has been trying to decide what to wear to Pax East.  She is really hoping to meet some folks from DDO there.  And as she is a 12 yr old girl, outfits are important.  She really wants a pink wig that I can style into her character’s hair.  Ordering the wig is easy.  Hairstylist, I am not…..

As for the outfit, I asked her if she just wanted a dress made out of video game fabric.  WAY easier than trying to make armor!!!  Of course, this was before Yaya Han released coplay fabric to Joann’s Fabric.  Pink originally wanted Pokemon.  I was thinking more old school like Mario.  First, we had to decide on a pattern.  We wanted something girly but simple.  We found this pattern:

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Now, back to questing for the perfect gaming fabric.  I thought that the Pokemon choices were slightly childish.  And she agreed.  We were looking at the Mario when something caught my eye on an end-cap.  It was a Link fabric.  But not the cartoony Legend of Zelda characters, but something darker and with more substance.

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She fell in love with it!!!  We are doing pattern D with contrasting godet.  Godet for those not in the know, is the contrasting panel on the dress.  We went with a gorgeous olive leaf print.

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It matches Link’s tunic and cap perfectly!!!

She is extremely excited and wants this dress done yesterday.  I think I know what I will be doing on my lunch break.

Now, if my fabric choices were only so easy.  I am jealous that she chose this one because I would have liked it myself.   I am torn between the following:

Any help?

***I am really hoping that there are some folks from DDO/Turbine at Pax East.  Pink is so excited!****

Some lessons have to be learned….

We finally let Pink play on a school night last night.  It was the first time in months.  After what she went through in November and recovering throughout December, she had decided she missed the hospital and spent the first week of January in the hospital with pneumonia.  Bad Gamer Child!!!

Pink is now level 15 and we really want to get her to epic level to have her run some of the more fun raids with us.  She really wants to run Fire on Thunderpeak.  She sits behind one of us each Friday night and watches it like TV.

Geek Dad really wants to get her into the Shroud, heroic of course.  We decided that last night was a perfect night to knock off one of the pre-req quests.  We decided to try Rainbow in the Dark.  We had two groups running in the Halfling Commandos which for us on a Wednesday night is AWESOME.  Geek Dad and I brought out our original guild characters, Wire and Theadora, who are in our guild Torchwood.  Yes, we are THAT geeky.

Rainbow went really well.  I had the glow stick which required Pink to stay close and not zerg ahead.  Best way to stop zerging!  We ran into a problem with the jumping to the pillars over the spikes.  Geek Dad had to help Pink.  He reset her settings to make it easier to see and she was all set.

No deaths up to until the named beholder.  I had moved up enough while pulling back the rusties to find him.  Pink shouted out, “I want to get him” and ran forward.

DING!!!!!!

Some lessons a parent cannot teach a child.  They must learn them on their own.  Running ahead towards a beholder just happens to be on that Pink learned last night.

We made it quickly to the end where I got to make sure that Pink remembered her Rainbow colors.  She did the puzzle on her own.  I popped in the glow stick.  The end boss showed up and was quickly dispatched!

Recalled and sent Pink off to bed.  She is still building back up her endurance and needs the rest.

All in all…..a good night to be had.

 

***For those who remember, I had stated that I would give a full update on what happened with Pink in November.  I have written it down but hesitate to post for two reasons.  One, she is almost 13 and is media aware.  The other, well….let’s say she should not have been allowed to get so sick.  She had her appendix removed on Nov 3.  November 11, she had to have four hours of emergency surgery to save her life from multiple stomach abscesses and sepsis.  After we brought her back to the hospital twice between Nov 8 and Nov 10th and were sent home.  Then she got pneumonia in January.  Those are the bare bones of it.  We are super happy that she is almost back to full health.  She lost a lot of weight and is gaining it back slowly.  Hopefully within the next few weeks, she can return back to everything she enjoyed.***